Most people have some type of skill.

Some are great mechanics, some are scholars, and some have a great understanding of human beings that take them into the areas of psychology and mental health.

What I've been wondering lately is, I'm wondering if some have the skill of attraction and marriage.

Note, I said attraction AND marriage. A skill set if you will.

Having kicked around in this pathetic world of singles now for two and one half years, I have noticed that there seems to be a group of men and women who are in their late thirties and forties who have not been married. They claim they want to be, they are on the look out for love, but as the clock is a ticking they are not in any race. Most of these folks are unattached completely. Many are not in the online world of dating. They do their hunting and preening amongst friends, at work, at church and at other social gatherings.

They go to work, men and women, pay their bills, talk with the neighbor, and then they close the door at night, and they are all alone.

I fit in the file of never married, but it was never by choice or desire.

Now it's true, some do not want to be married, or even want to have a long-term relationship, but many do, and it just never seems to happen. After awhile I think many just give up on the idea and squirrel themselves away in a comfortable cocoon of internet relations or movies or favorite TV shows.

Is it that these people don't have the marrying skill?

I ask this, because I can site many instances where I know women (and some men) who are walking down that aisle with a guy or gal who has been to the alter once, twice and maybe three times.

They themselves may or may not have been married several times, usually not though. Maybe once. Occassionally never.

At any rate, I got to wondering about this, because of my situation with my ex, Kim.

She is hooking up with a guy who has been married three times.

I tried and tried to get to the alter with her, and it never worked. I really don't belong in the "don't want to" category, but I obviously lack something, the marrying skill, I guess.

It just seems odd, that there is a growing pool of never married, and they can't get together with each other, but you will hear about one or more in the group falling impossibly for someone who has walked the walk two or three times.

They have marrying skill set. It keeps them walking and walking down that aisle.